FOUR YEARS, AND I STILL WAIT FOR YOU

It has been four years, Bappa.
Four years since that Friday morning when the doctors fought for forty-five minutes to keep you with us.
At exactly 7:33 AM, they stopped.
My world did too.
That morning taught me one of the cruellest truths about grief: the worst moment of your life can happen quietly beside someone else’s perfectly ordinary day.
I once believed time would heal me.
It has not.
It has only taught me how to hide the wound better. How to smile while missing you. How to speak about you without allowing my voice to break.
Moving forward is not the same as moving on.
These four years have also taught me how dangerous the word “tomorrow” can be.
I thought there would always be another day to sit beside you. Another day to listen to your stories and record your memories.
There were so many questions I wanted to ask. But I kept postponing them because I believed we had tomorrow.
Tomorrow did come.
But you did not.
Now, all I have are the memories I return to again and again.
One memory that refuses to leave me is the day Taqi was born.
We were in Bangkok. You were in Malé.
When I called, I heard your happiness—and the sadness of a grandfather who could not be there to welcome his grandson.
“Don’t worry about anything,” you said.
That was all. But even from thousands of kilometres away, those words made me feel you were standing beside us.
I still remember the day you received a clean bill of health. You stretched your arms out proudly, almost like an athlete preparing for the Olympics.
We laughed.
You laughed with us.
It was such a small moment. I did not know then that I was standing inside a memory I would one day return to with tears.
That is the cruelty of memories. We can visit them as often as we want, but we can never stay. We can relive the moments we had, but we can never make new ones.
Did you know that almost everyone has moved into our house?
Everyone except you.
I often imagine how happy you would have been to see your children finally home. The rooms are full now, yet your absence fills them more than anything else.
I once believed strength meant not breaking.
Now I know it means waking up broken and continuing anyway. It means carrying sorrow without allowing it to become bitterness.
Most days, I manage.
But beneath all the strength I try to show, I am only a son who wants his father back.
Just for one day.
One hour.
One final conversation.
This time, I would not look at the clock. I would not postpone a single question.
I would tell you how deeply sorry I am for the distance I once allowed between us, and how much I regret the precious time we lost because of it.
I would hold your hand and tell you how much I love you. How much I still need you. How empty the world has felt without you.
I would keep saying it until I was certain you had heard me.
It has been four years, Bappa.
My mind knows you are not coming back.
But knowing has never stopped my heart from waiting.
I miss you more than these words could ever hold.
May Allah forgive all your sins, fill your grave with light, widen it beyond measure, and grant you the highest place in Jannat al-Firdaus.
Ameen.











